Speaking of Sex with The Pleasure Mechanics
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Expert sex advice, proven techniques and candid conversation from The Pleasure Mechanics. Discover how to have the sex you crave! Like Savage Lovecast? You’ll love Speaking of Sex!
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How To Initiate Sex
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Initiating sex can be scary, even in long term relationships. Here's how to initiate (and refuse!) sex with skill and grace.
If initiating sex terrifies you, you are not alone. In this episode we dive into the best way to initiate sex to minimize rejection - and how to reject your partner without wounding the person you love!
Initiating sex can be scary, even with a long term partner. Asking for what you desire is a vulnerable act, no matter how much you trust your partner. For most people, it is the fear of rejection that gets in the way of initiating sex more frequently.
Let’s face it: rejection hurts. Most human languages reflect this with phrases like “heart broken” and “hurt my feelings” or “that stung.” Recently, modern technology has revealed that this isn’t a metaphor: functional MRI studies reveal romantic rejection registers in the brain as physical pain.
But you don’t need to feel rejected every time your partner isn’t up for sex. In this episode, we explore how to reframe the situation so it feels safer to ask while allowing both partners to authentically negotiate their desires.
A lot of people come to sexual neediness out of touch starvation. If you have a culture in your relationship where you are not touching one another, you are not affectionate, you are not feeling paid attention to, that is when sexual neediness sets in. And needy is never sexy.
Rated 5 out of
Easily among the world's top ten greatest podcasts
Speaking of Sex is easily among the world's top ten greatest podcasts. Even top five, maybe. When it comes to sex advice, this podcast is the finest widely-available "periodical" in the English language, in any medium.
This podcast's hosts are named Chris and Charlotte. They virtually always present information in an accessible, practical way. Likewise, they always focus on how real sexual pleasure is best achieved by real people, in light of any relevant emotional or medical concerns.
But what's truly impressive is that even without relinquishing their plain-language/no-bull style, Chris and Charlotte reveal themselves as dynamic advocates for change in our cultural ideas about sex.
In other words, they serve not only as coaches to help us personally attain more pleasure, but also as analysts to point out root social or psychological causes of common sex problems. This is important because we listeners frequently need advice not just on techniques; but on attitudes, expectations, and even general facts regarding what sex is.
An episode called "Shattering the Greatest Myth", from mid-2014, is the epitome of what I'm trying to explain, about how ambitious and special this podcast is.
Date published: 2014-10-23
Rated 5 out of
The best podcast on sexuality I have heard! The hosts are knowledgable, friendly and open-minded - every episode is fascinating, even when not on a subject that I am super curious about, I listen every time cause I get something out of it each time! Highly recommended
Date published: 2014-01-29
Rated 5 out of
One of my favorites!
I listen to almost every show, they've got great levelheaded advice.
Date published: 2014-06-04