One of the hardest parts of facing parental divorce is dealing with the inevitable new relationships that arise. Anger, resentment, jealousy - it would be almost impossible not to experience many negative emotions. But if we allow our emotions to rule us, it becomes difficult to objectively understand reality. By looking into the causes behind the divorce, empathy and understanding will grow. Rather than focusing on what to do, we should first think deeply about how to better understand each new challenge. This might be far from easy but, as Shifu Ming Hai explains, in Zen Buddhism difficult situations are seen as the fertile ground from which wisdom can grow.