#InChargeShow Becoming Her
About This Show
Creator of Heart Talk Yoga®--a system for mind-body reprogramming for success--Psychologist and Yoga Teacher Dr. Valerie Baker interviews women who won't settle for anything less than living the life they were born to live and fully bringing their unique gifts into the world. Expect honest and raw conversations about what it really takes to stop settling, step into your destiny, and create organic success in business and life. We hope these stories give you courage, inspiration, and strategies to overcome your biggest challenges, reclaim your gifts, and get fully in charge of your life. Because a woman in charge of her life changes the world.
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Skinny does not equal happy
Skinny does not equal happy: How to shed shame, boost your confidence, and bring your full self to life She was cast as a hippo in a ballet. She spent years chasing the body ideal that was unhealthy and unsustainable. Elyse shares what she learned on her journey as a dancer and fitness instructor about overcoming body shame, boosting confidence, and bringing her full self to life. "The message that happy equals skinny was so ingrained in me," Elyse said. Her mom has been on every diet, from the grapefruit diet to the carrot diet. Her grandma would look at Elyse when she was super skinny and light up: "You look skinny!" And when she didn't look super skinny, she would day, "You look... healthy." When her grandma got tongue cancer and had only 1/3 of her tongue left and lost a ton of weight, she said: "It's the best thing that happened to me. I'm finally at my ideal weight." Elyse has been a dancer since age 3. Leotards. Type casting for parts in a ballet about animals. She was cast as a hippo. She was not overweight, but she was curvier than other girls. She remembers that moment, looking around the room from inside the hippo costume... She remembers "a deep feeling of shame... Almost like everyone in the room knew something about me that I didn't know." Her story brought up a memory for me. I was in a school gym class... Maybe I was 10, or 11, or 12... Looking around at all these naturally skinny girls in shorts. I was embarrassed to wear shorts. I felt my thighs were too big. I was not overweight, but I wasn't super skinny. I remember sitting there on a gym wooden bench, uncomfortable in shorts, looking down at my inner thighs, lifting them off the bench and pressing them together, so they would appear thinner. When no one was looking, I would pinch and pull on the flesh, wishing it would go away, magically disappear, so I too would have the holy grail of a thigh gap... It was a deep desire, from the bottom of a child's heart. Have you ever felt body shame? Have you ever