When we trust in God’s love, the "first love," the desire to be relevant and successful will gradually disappear. When that happens, our desire will be live and say: “You're loved. There's no reason to be afraid--to control through relevancy and scarcity." Instead of trying to get the "first love" (i.e. God's unconditional love) from people, products, or services, we'll instead try and get that from the only one who can give it: God. When we ground oureslves in God's first love, we'll be much better at navigating this world full of "second loves."